The Wrong Message: Competition

Posted by on Jul 18, 2012 in Blog, Media | Comments Off on The Wrong Message: Competition

The Wrong Message: Competition

I was flipping through the television channels last night and working through my disappointment at the lack of quality programming to choose from when something started to really stand out to me bigger than it has before: the Competition Stereotype of women on television is alive and raging!

Four Weddings;  a new show where four brides tear at each other’s happiness and special day through competing for the “best” wedding!  (I thought weddings were about vows and commitment and love?)

Toddlers in Tiara’s;  beautiful young girls and their horrifying mother’s teaching them to be ruthless pieces of eye candy.

Dance Mom’s;  really?  Can you create a bigger emotional and self-esteem roller coaster for your daughters to live through?

Housewives of ___________; does it matter which city these back-stabbing, materialistic, small minded people live in?

The list goes on and on.  Women have been taught to compete against each other; to see each other as the enemy.  This is how women have been belittled, controlled and kept out of  board rooms, and out of the leadership roles where they can change and improve the world. They have been taught not to trust each other and to even not trust themselves.   This image that we tolerate and (gulp) support through complacency is holding us back.

Women naturally support each other.  It starts with giving birth and nurturing and loving and growing another human being.  This is what we naturally do.  We create communities.  We feed each other, care for each other, encourage each other.    We are love based in our natural state.

Unless of course we buy into the messages fed to us by those who want to keep us suppressed in fear, mistrust and competition.  Competition is fear based.

Connection.  Collaboration.  Community.  Leadership.  This is where women excel when they are supported and given the chance to be who they were born to be.   I am disappointed at what so many otherwise intelligent people label as “entertainment” – it has a way of desensitizing the mind and creating a feeling of “normalcy”.  We are what we think we are.

Women change the world when they embrace who and what they are and refuse to be anything less.