Are You Scared Enough?

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Are You Scared Enough?

There is something amazing about working with a highly skilled coach whose focus and purpose is to help you find clarity, purpose and momentum to truly achieve what you dream of.  Yes, I know, I am coach, but I am actually not talking about myself here.  I believe that every good leader and every great coach does even better when they have a highly skilled and trusted coach of their own.  If there is anything I have learned about leadership in these past several years, it is to not lead alone.

So, this brings me to the question at the top of this page.  It is a question that I was asked recently by a highly skilled coach and it resonated with me to point that I felt compelled to share it with you.  “Are you scared enough?”

What she was referring to was whether or not I was truly reaching outside of my own comfort zone and purposefully placing myself in the space where real growth happens.  Was I riding on my success of the past, or creating new success for the future in a bigger, bolder way?

This is an excellent question.  You see, I have lived outside of what most would describe as a “comfort zone” for so many years that much of it has become, well, comfortable.  I lead large professional women’s groups.  I love it.  I am inspired and energized by it.  I am also comfortable doing it.  I volunteer with non-profits that are working hard to make great improvements in the world and improve the plight of others and I love it.  I have been doing it a long time.  I am usually quite comfortable there too.  I work with clients in my mentoring and coaching practice and help them reach beyond what they used to think of as their limits and it makes my heart sing, my step springy and my gratitude soar.  You guessed it, I am often comfortable there too.  I love to solve problems and when those problems are within the realm of my highest expertise, I thrive on their resolution.  I love change.  I am one of those strange and rare people who LOVE change.

Here is the challenge.  I can feel myself slipping into auto-pilot more and more often because I am in my groove, in my comfort zone, in my realm of high expertise.  I love change and I love growth.  Growth is slow inside of the comfort zone…and so I talked to a coach.  My task for her was “help me figure out how to keep growing in ways that I can’t see today.”

Opportunities surround us every day, even if we don’t always recognize them for what they are.  I started looking for opportunities that I wasn’t seeing before and added some time into my morning meditation for remaining open to new challenges to help me grow.  I got one!

I was offered a new CEO position of a new start-up company in an industry that I haven’t been spending my full attention on for several years.  The tasks at hand were to help negotiate contracts between investors, get the financial strategy laid out, get the strategic operational plan in place, get the marketing in order, get the business connections intact, get the first employees on board, break through conservative sales projections and get to profitability as quickly as possible so that our investors are happy, the company is financially stable and we could then hire more employees and continue to grow.  Really…is that all you want me to do?  This is the culmination of all of my experiences from the last several years put together in one big & hairy time-sensitive creative responsibility-laden exciting thought-challenging relationship-building solution- seeking conglomeration of CHANGE.  Scary as hell, isn’t it?

I accepted.

I threw my hands in the air in celebration (I love leading and creating and solving problems and relationship building!)…and then I grabbed my nauseated stomach and called my coach.  I told her that I knew I was on the right path not because of the excitement – but because of the nausea.   It feels good to be out of my comfort zone once again in the land of growth and change and possibility.  Does it scare me enough?  Yes… enough to wake me up in the middle of the night…this is exciting!  I am growing again.

How about you?  Are you scared enough of what you are doing to know that you are growing beyond your original vision?

Women Change the World when they embrace their strength and their power within themselves and refuse to under-live their lives.